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Fifteen


One thing you have to know about Maddy- she has the softest voice in the land. And yet it doesn't keep her from comedy. This was the video she submitted for her Lone Peak Sophomore Student Council interview. She didn't end up winning- but it's not keeping her from running again next year. Read on for more reasons WE LOVE MADDY!


My Maddy is fifteen today. Fifteen years old. On the cusp of womanhood, and yet in some ways, already there.

There is a quote often used in adoption families, but I kind of like it for our family situation, too.

Not of my flesh, nor of my bone
But still miraculously my own
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn't grow under my heart, but in it.


Sometimes, she feels like a little sister. Sometimes I call her "Abby". And I often find my borrowed clothes wadded up on her closet floor. One morning before school, after I had just had Maxwell, and was in shock over the lack of sleep my body was experiencing (seriously, no one prepared me for that), she came over to my side of the bed and asked me if I could help her with her hair. She was all of 8 years old at the time. And in my sleepy-shocked-comatose state, I said "just go have mom do it."

And then realized, I AM THE MOM. A literal wake up call.

But she has been the best little sister/bonus-daughter/friend I could have ever asked for or dreamed of. She is my shopping buddy, my second opinion, the second mother of the family, my laundry folder helper, my "let's get out of the house on Saturday" chum, and our in-house comedienne. Seriously, I didn't know she had it in her, but she is one of the funniest people I know.

And she isn't afraid to try anything. And she is friends with everyone. And she is the most easy going girl (and easy going + girl rarely ever go together in a sentence) I know.

Happy Birthday Maddy. I love you so, so, so much!

Comments

Kate said…
I often think about if I died I would never want Mark to re-marry because I would worry that the new wife could not love and take care of my children like I do... until I read this. You are wonderful.
brooke said…
She is a doll and her video was really funny--I'm sad she didn't win. You are both so lucky to have each other. I love that poem.
Erin Goff said…
We love Maddy. She just makes me smile every time I look at her. What an amazing relationship you have.
Happy B-day Maddy!
Wendy said…
I can't get over Parker graduating and Maddy being 15. CRAZY! Happy birthday!
Sara said…
That is an awesome video. Happy birthday Maddy.
Mandee said…
wait, wait, wait... thank you for the compliments, but I am not wonderful, and our relationship is not quite amazing- we have our moments like everyone does, especially in step families. But I do love that girl, and I wanted her to know why! Plus, she loves blog publicity.

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